First, let us examine what one means by “just friends”. It is a euphemism for the fact that there is no element of romance and sex between the couple and all they do is to talk about this and that. The term also implies that in a wide social circle, this can mean that there are many more and each have their way with the rest. Thus, being friends means just that. Nothing more, nothing less. This is the most commonly employed take among this generation. If we turn to the premise of the statement of this paper, “Friends with Benefits” or getting sexually involved with a person without having any emotional feelings towards them.
According to Carey (2007), “Yet relationships in which close friends begin having sex come with their own brand of awkwardness, according to the first study to explore the dynamics of such pairs, often called friends with benefits, or F.W.B”. This concept is akin to the “live-in” relationships where there is a relationship without the attendant emotional baggage. Friends with Benefits imply that there is something more than friendship between the couples and that something is the sexual part.
Now, if one were asked to state that there is no emotional attachment between sexual partners, it would be akin to saying that we do not have feelings at all. And what compounds the fact is that when couples do get involved and seek out sex from each other, it is not just titillation at work, but a whole lot of other factors that include bonding, a desire to get close and the like. The implications of Friends with Benefits are staggering. First, one has to consider the fact that one can get mixed up very easily with the other person and hence one has to ensure that feelings of love and attachment are kept at bay.
This is especially hard on the person who sought the encounter in the first place as human nature is such that one tends to satisfy a craving of sorts and hence the need to be loved is an important component here. Next,
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