Divorce and Remarriage - Case Study Example

The pastor went to Greg and asked what had happened. Greg responded it was no big deal and laughed the incident off. The pastor complimented him for his discretion, and reminded Greg of two verses from Proverbs, “He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends” (17:9), and “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger” (15:1). Greg replied that remaining calm and gentle was just what friends did for each other, and since he had known Tyrone for several years and never seen him act in anger, the whole incident really was no big deal.

Pastor Tallon sought Tyrone out, led him back to the office, and shut the door. He asked Tyrone what was wrong, and after letting Tyrone speak angrily about the incident from the morning meeting, he asked again what was wrong. At this point Tyrone told the pastor, with tears in his eyes and his voice shaking, that Tyrone’s wife Rachael had been having an extramarital affair. After fifteen years of a good marriage, and serving in the church as leaders for the past six years, the couple was going to divorce because of Rachael’s affair.

In Tyrone’s mind, they already had split, and the divorce was already final, even though he had just found out about the affair. Pastor Tallon asked Tyrone to come in for counseling with Rachael before doing anything drastic, and he agreed that they would try. The pastor walked with Tyrone and Rachael for several weeks of sessions, helping them speak to each other about their deepest concerns in their relationship as well as the affair. Over time, the couple made some efforts to fix what was broken in their relationship.

Rachael apologized for her affair and pledged to work on her faith (in Tyrone as well as in God) to keep herself from seeking escape with another man. Tyrone agreed that he would try to be more available to talk to Rachael and support and listen to her. During one