Friendship of men - Essay Example

Men by nature are less verbal than women. Firstly, it’s noticeable when watching men speaking about things, describing events. Men mostly value actions, notions while women love the details and are common to go in deep descriptions. Thus, from the first sight it seems men are less capable of feelings, but Rosenblatt (1998) argues that it’s not true. Simply for men those experienced feelings “remain submerged, and the airing of them violates their authenticity” (Rosenblatt, 1998). On the contrary, it seems for women everything only gets clearer when it’s verbalized.

Therefore, men and women spent time with same sex friends differently. Rosenblatt (1998) brings example of two men, romantic poets Wordsworth and Coleridge, who once spend a three hours long evening together without saying a word, both enjoying silence very much. Of course men aren’t absolutely silent, but even nowadays when comparing men’s meetings with women’s ones, men rather meet to do some business (to watch basketball, or for fishing, or playing chess etc.) while women go shopping which naturally implies discussion of cloth, or women may specifically meet at cafes for chatting.

Additionally, women need verbal communication more regularly than men. They are women who’re complaining why a friend, or a relative hasn’t called for a long of time, and no chance that man will complain about rare communication. Rosenblatt (1998) brings own example, “There are a dozen guys whom I count as friends and who do the same with me, yet months pass without our speaking”. Women can’t stand a long silence in relations, and if there’s not enough talking women may thing something is wrong, or friend’s hiding a secret.

Rosenblatt (1998) refers men’s natural silence to the fact that somehow men are more comfortable with being alone in comparison to women. Either it’s a natural state of affairs, or men were somehow