Self mediation - Case Study Example

My friend, hailing from an Asian country believed that her culture was richer in cultural values than the American, and was thus a better place to bring up a child than the dilute American culture. Contrary to her view, I believed that the American culture, since it was not affiliated to any particular ethnic origin was the best culture to a rare a child. The argument became sour, erupting to a huge verbal fight and emotional eruptions. At one point I asked her why she had decided to seek educational refuge from a country she believed did not portray any cultural values.

She accused our country for being an economic colonialist of the rest of the world, an issue that worsened the already awful situation. According to Daniel (2001, p.10), self-mediation is a tool used in conflict resolution where the conflicting individuals personally involved in the conflict engage in a dialogue with one another to resolve the conflict. A conversation conflict normally arises when none of the parties wants to loose in the argument, and thus raisin a heated argument that results into a verbal war.

The fight leads to raised voices, and aggressive body behaviour as the parties get emotionally agitated. In the incidence with my friend, the fight was so intense that personal differences were raised during the argument. Most of the parties in the confrontation end up walking away from each other, leading to a stalemate situation. My nasty incidence with my friend resulted in her leaving the scene when the argument got to a stalemate, where neither of us was listening to each other. None of us was willing to give up in the argument, believing we were right in our personal arguments.

Daniel (2001, p. 79-85) outlines the principles for solving personal arguments, where finding time to talk about the issue brings the disputing parties into a mutual understanding of the causal reasons that led to the argument. Preventing distractions and interruptions while solving the conflict helps the parties understand one another. A cool environment away from external distractors gives the individuals ample opportunity to involve in constructive and more personal discussions. The use of a dialogue checklist in solving the problem allows the conflicting individuals to address the most important issues that culminated into the disagreement.

Lastly, striving for a win-win situation by the parties brings the conflict to a successful conclusion, satisfying both parties. Solving our argument was an incidence that gave me an opportunity to exercise not only the principles of self-mediation conflict solving, but also apply the procedure of self-motivation conflict resolution in real life. After precisely three hours of silence, we met to resolve our dispute at a public longue. The serenity of the longue and its natural feeling provided the best environment to hold personal discussions relating to our conflict.

The moment was characterized by emotional deliberations, and full of personal feelings. At first it was hard to accept the root cause of the problem as nobody was genuine enough to accept sparking up the argument. Maturity of the parties, I realized, played a key role in laying our