They also have their mother and grandmother sharing negative stories of their father, and it apparently paints a very dull picture of their father. That information whether true or not, is not appropriate for a six and eight year old to hear. While the alienating parent may not have the intention to hurt the children, it can have extremely negative consequences on their well being. Erickson’s psychoanalytic theory argues that an individual’s psychosocial calamity affects their personality development, either positively or negatively and this can be applied in the children’s lives (Alanen 1988).
Both Rachael and Ben were affected by their mother’s alienation techniques. The functional theories are founded on protecting a child’s psychological welfare, influenced by attachment theory where deep emotional bond is developed resulting from the children living daily with their mother. Sudden separation from their mother may not be in the best interest of the children. According to the attachment theory, children become more attached to a caregiver who interacts with them and gives care to them consistently (Bauman 2000).
The mother of the child is often considered to be the attachment figure mostly because they are the primary caregiver though the theory does not suggest that fathers cannot equally become principle attachment figures especially if they are the main caregivers to the children. The children wish to be with their mother, this should be given weight. b) The parents attitude towards responsibility Both parents illustrates a huge challenge in creating a conducive environment for the children. For the parents, playing the ‘blame game’ may be satisfying to them in the short term; this will actually begin to surreptitiously undermine oneself, while eroding the other parent in the process.
When parents blame each other, they are negating their own parenting prowess and robbing themselves of all their strengths and qualities as parents. The amount of time and effort spent in generating blame results in loss of time spent enjoying the children. From this study, the father is conflicted because he is not able to be the primary breadwinner supporting his children. The Masculinity ideology which focuses not only on beliefs of men adhering to culturally laid down principles for male behavior but also their attitude towards those roles.
This father has been denied the opportunity to be the provider for his children since the mother and grandmother has taken that role. The mother has to work for long hours to ensure she takes care of the family which contradicts the masculinity ideology that recognizes the roles of the male figure in the family as the primary breadwinner. From a feminist perspective, a person’s gender should not define what role they play in raising a family. Women historically have been disadvantaged that children are placed with their fathers after divorce but an equally feminist presumption favors women as the primary custodians of the children.
Liberal feminism argues that individuals whether male or female be treated equally when deliberating on issues family, in this case, formal equality being applied on who should have custody of the children. c) Capacity of the parents to take care of the children’s needs From the study, both parents have capacity financially to support the children. Jane and her mother Ruby, have taken care of the children’s financial needs thus far, even the school report states that the children are progressing well in all areas.
One parent cannot fully support the emotional needs of his or her children. During the interview with the children, they had a hard time separating from their mother; this clearly shows that the children prefer a familiar caregiver. The children portray a negative response to their father their withdrawal and refusal to interact with their dad displays behavioral impairment symptoms. Each parent clearly shows interest in having custody of the children but according to the ‘best interest’ principle, a child has a right to love both parents and have access to each without interference.
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