On the other side women’s educational opportunities have increased. According to the statistics of 1989 regarding the new work force in Japan, 37% of women had received education beyond upper secondary school compared to 43% of men. The social values that expect women to be just house wives and mothers and the increase in the rate of educated among women lead to the conflict among women regarding the choice between marriage and profession. To add on to this conflict, the concept of marriage is very “conservative (of course by Western standards) in Japanese society.
There is the so-called “Arranged marriages” as well as the “love marriages”. Arranged marriages, arranged by the parents were dominant earlier but of late women and men prefer love marriages. But in majority of cases they ensure the consent of their parents to the marriage. In the Western concept of marriage love is the dominant motivation for marriage. When the love disappears couples separate too very easily in the Western culture, though not without pain, which they try to hide away as far as possible.
But in Japan as in many Asian cultures children are the main motif of marriage. (In 1930s and 40s high fertility and motherhood were considered as patriotic duty of women to the nation or to the Japanese empire) According to Rindfuss et al children became the most important and integral part of Japanese marriage as it was based on Confucianism. (The Changing Institutional Context of Low Fertility, Population Research and Policy Review, 22:411-438) For philosophy Confucius, marriage is not just a union between man and woman.
It is an institution that carries the paternal line and maintains the family line and inheritance of properties. More over the transition from marriage to parenthood takes place fast in Japan, with in two years in almost 70% of marriages. So marriage in Japanese society is related more to procreation than love and sex. When children become the main motif of marriage, the fading out of the love for each other doesn’t make the couple separate that easily, as they will stay together for the sake of the children.
In Western culture, if one wants children, one can have it outside marriage. But in Japan as well as in many Asian cultures, a child out of marriage is not a preference at all. The marriage rate of parents in Japan is almost 100%. Because of this child oriented attitude to marriage, every married woman, when she begets a child is considered just a mother and no more a woman or wife. This applies even to the love marriages. The father in many families prefers to have a special room for him self when his wife has become a mother.
Thus even the sexual life of the couples gets restricted because of this child-centric marriage concepts and attitudes. As the mother, by convention prefers to sleep with the child, sex becomes almost an impossible thing and women start losing interest in sex when once they become mothers, for spatial as well as psychological reasons. There is even an unwritten understanding between the man and wife that after say almost ten years of married life with children, the husband is free to satisfy his male libido somewhere else as the wife has no more time for satisfying him sexually as she is so busy with his children.
That’s supposed to be or pointed out to be one of the reasons why the sex industry is so spread out and prosperous in Japan. As Gregory M Pflugfelder points out in his study about the male sexuality in Japan, “Upon marriage, if not sooner, a man was expected to fully embark upon a carrier of Joshoku, Although Nanshoku liaisons in the role of Nenja were still permissible, and the sanctioned range of female partners included not only wives but concubines and prostitutes. (Cartographies of Desire, PP38) The working women in Japan usually quit their jobs when once they become mothers.
In 1998, Revised Equal Employment Opportunity Law made available parental leave for one year for both fathers and mothers.
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