A family can also be composed of all kin, regardless of how far the relationships really are. In the movie “My Big, Fat, Greek Wedding”, the definition of “family” has not only been confined to what people believe is, but it also consists of other people of the same race, same ideas, as well as the inclusion of distant relatives and even the elderly, which is atypical in the Westernized idea of defining a family. In the story, Fotoula “Toula” Portokalos is regarded as a “failure” due to her personal choice of opting to study and define what she wants, instead of the typical idea in their family that “women have only three roles in life: marry a Greek boy; make Greek babies; and cook for everyone else till they die”. Due to the pressure of her father and other older relatives, she felt miserable and sad for her unending fate and distaste for marriage, until she met an upper-class American, Ian Miller. They fell in love and eventually planned on getting married but not without the shock and the disdain of her whole family, which included her household and her numerous relatives, and also the eventual shock of Ian’s parents when they get to meet the loud and boisterous overly-extended family of Toula. But as the story progressed, the couple were able to meet half-way, for Toula, accepting who she really is and her ancestry, and for Ian the adjustments of having a big and noisy family which was, in reality, a warm and close-knit group that helps everyone in need, whenever or whatever it is.
This movie is able to show viewers many insights as to how families work in different ways. For one, in the prologue of the movie, Toula has to balance between being Greek and wanting to belong to the popular girls in school. Her father as well as her whole family is very proud of the fact that they are Greek, which she could not accept until she met Ian, who loved her for being Greek and all that (Zwick, 2002). For Ian, the novelty and liberating feeling of being in a new environment made him a changed man, because he came from a very