Retrieved from https://studentshare.org/english/1632482-trust-between-a-child-and-his-caregiver
https://studentshare.org/english/1632482-trust-between-a-child-and-his-caregiver.
Trust between a Child and a Caregiver Children are very delicate and fragile. They learn from what they see and hear. It is the surrounding that equips them with either good or bad habits. Parents are also a kind of caregiver as a child spends most of his time with them. It can be evidenced from personal experiences that children builds trust when they think their needs are being met. Special children needs more attention, this illustrates that they need more time to build trust. For example the case of Christopher is a sound example.
Once trust is broken it is difficult to earn it back as children become stiff regarding the past experiences. This paper aims to highlight that once the trust between a child and his caregiver is broken then it becomes difficult to earn that trust back.Whatever the children see, notice, and hear they adopt it and store it in their minds. Therefore the factor of trust is crucial one between a child and a caregiver. Children are good observers; they carefully notice and observe what is happening around them.
They often catch what we say and store them in their mind. The case of Christopher from the text is a good example of this relationship between a child and his caregiver i.e. his father. The case of Christopher is not an ordinary one, he needs more attention and care than other children as he has some issues and his brain does not work properly. He lives with his father who is not happy with his habit of eating everything and pooping on the floor or anywhere. While Christopher is trying to build trust between him and his father, his father tells him something astonishing.
He tells him that he had murdered someone and that he lied to him. However, his father wants Christopher to trust him now. Christopher calculates in his mind that since he lied to him already and he had murdered someone, therefore, he might murder Christopher as well and he should not trust him. Thinking in this manner led Christopher to plan an escape from the house as he is frightened of being murdered (Haddon). Just like Christopher, we had a neighbor who had two children. The parents used to go to office while caregiver looked after them and used to pick and drop them from their school.
One afternoon on their way back from the school the caregiver accidentally hit on a pole. Children were frightened, although no one was injured. Despite of being with him and travelling with him for more than 1.5 years, the children never drove with him again because they did not trust him anymore and were frightened like Christopher. Both the examples from the text and personal experience refer to a conclusion that children needs to be dealt with extra care and effort. Caregiver should focus on what and how they are treating children, because once the factor of trust is broken, then it becomes quite difficult to earn it back and that happens rarely.
Works CitedHaddon, Mark. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time. New York: Vintage, 2004.
Read More